Proximity & People

There's this one thing that has been running in my head for a while now. It's called "Proximity"
(It's not boring, I promise - wink wink)

Generally, there are two aspects in which proximity is understandable. The visible proximity & the underlying proximity.

The visible proximity is clearly defined. Let's say there are two or more people standing together or sitting down to eat (or any activity), there is an element of comfortableness that is attached to the said person/group.

So technically, there is a bubble around you that shows or sets the limit as to, how much a person means.

Yes. It is that simple. But Wait.

This bubble is not visible. And you will hardly recognize it on a day-to-day basis. But it is not absent.
Some people are closer to us than most of us, Why? Because we allow only certain people inside our bubble to know what the vulnerable parts of us are ! We feel somewhat content, happy, secure like a fortitude, warm kinda-fuzzy-feeling around selected few, because of this proximity factor.

Let's say there is a new person or a character, who has entered into your bubble. Alarmingly, you back off.Unconsciously, your guard is up. And your senses are aware about your surroundings, actions and on-going conversations. Now, over time you will understand this new person, explore all types of outcome including assault, probable happiness, trust factor, etc.
And only then, you let a person in your bubble.

The reason behind me explaining the whole "proximity" is how each levels of proximity decides the "extent of damage" that an individual undergoes.

We let people in our proximity zone, and let them live in moments along with ours. The higher the proximity, the higher the extent of damage the person does, when they leave or have to leave or whatever the situation is.

People have self made barriers or walls that does not let a potential other In, why? Because of the possible "Hurt" factor.In the end, I cannot blame someone for how they chose to act or react in a relationship and whatever situation life happens to put them in.

It's in my mind. The hurt is in my mind. The pain is in my mind
And I need to decide whether I can let this person to a certain proximity level, where I can hold up the pain or even live with it.

So, Proximity comes in play, when the person leaves.
How you crumble to the ground, hold your breath and wished none of it happened.
How you groan inside, trying to break free from the pain.
How a person begs you to stop the hurt inside
Proximity makes it visible.
But MOST importantly, it decides by whom you would allow yourself to get hurt.

Choose,
Whom you want to let in.
Choose like your life depended on it.
The underlying proximity was created for you to understand,
~ that not everyone in your life is meant to stay, & 
not everyone is meant to leave.


- MercyJade